As responsibilities accumulate, it becomes easier to neglect relationships and ignore new opportunities.
Your 30s are typically a time for settling down after using your 20s to take risks and find yourself.
Many 30-somethings are busy rising through their work hierarchy, developing a serious romantic relationship, and possibly raising a family.
Those who have already been through that decade say that as their responsibilities accumulated, it became easier to neglect relationships and ignore opportunities that they would never get again.
Quora users discussed lessons they learned in the thread: “What is the biggest mistake you made in your 30s and what did you learn from it?”
We’ve collected some of the most insightful responses.
You aren’t driven by purpose.
“Success” doesn’t have to be equated with wealth and prestige.
It’s common for undergraduate college students lacking specific career goals to pick a relatively safe, well-tread path with the hope that things work out. At some point in their 30s, some of these same people may have multiple degrees and wealth but realize that they are deriving no meaning from their career.
This happened to designer Jack Sheu when he was 35. “I learned that if you don’t have your purpose, then make it your obsession in life to find it,” he writes. “It took me over a year, and I was completely disconnected from the rat race during that time. Don’t stop until you’ve got it. You’ll know when you have.”